I’ve written before about my friend and I having the same guys reach out (or not) to us on dating sites. One of them was the 30 year-old whose shenanigans I’ve been promising to write down…I’m building the long list of stupid and/or mean stuff he’s said to me. But I just couldn’t resist sharing this incident, in advance of y’all knowing more about him. I will call him “P”. Because of his name and also because it’s the first letter in PRICK.
On Monday night, I had P over. This was after after-work drinks with my friend and a friend of hers. His plans had been cancelled and he asked me if we could hook up. The sex is good so I said sure, why not.
In the course of the post-coital conversation I mentioned to P that he had good taste because he had also reached out to a girlfriend of mine online. He’s only on one dating site so it narrowed it down. I think I said she was also 40 and may have vaguely mentioned she was in a much different business than I. He started asking me who it was – of course I wouldn’t tell him. We’d fool around and then he’d ask again. I finally told him to just forget it – that it was private and I wasn’t about to give him her “handle”.
Fast forward to the next day. My friend sends me a screen shot of her inbox… P hasn’t reached out to her since March 7**, and now there’s an email from him that says “Hi…what kind of business are you in”? Continue reading →
It didn’t start badly. It was a pretty normal start to an online dating relationship (which yes, means a “normal” level of BS, weirdness, and all that).
He reached out in early December – it was simple – “Hey, I liked your profile and think we have a lot in common. How are you doing?”. He was 30, a decade younger than I, and given some of the experienced I’ve already documented, I was quite reluctant to have another go at a young guy. His profile wasn’t notable in any way. Seemed rather chill, if not a bit boring (watching sports and reading the paper in his spare time – whoooo). But he had a nice look and was 6’5″…which was appealing. He was also articulate and smart. And, to be honest, he was interested in me; which given some of my prior experiences, was great in and of itself. Continue reading →
I don’t recall a second date. As in, actually being out anywhere. It’s quite possible we just went straight for the “meet for a drink at my place” for our second round. We might have gone back to the same pub. Either way, it’s irrelevant.
Communication between the two of us has always been rather challenging. For example, we never talked on the phone, or even emailed one another – it was always via text. In person, we definitely had decent conversations, but P doesn’t like talking about certain things – if things get too personal or probing for him, he sidesteps the conversation and says he’s not interested in talking about it. Continue reading →
I was chatting with Johnny recently about his upcoming trip to my city, and what things we were going to do whilst he is here. We joked about swingers clubs and I realized I’ve never written about my swingers club experience.
Although Ariel was ultimately not the right guy for me, he was an amazing sexual match. He wasn’t particularly handsome, but there was something about him that was attractive – probably because I knew what he was able to do to me. He had incredible stamina and could keep going for hours and hours. He remains one of the best kissers I’ve ever been with. He had a varied sexual background and was pretty much game to do anything that I wanted to do. While he had his own needs, he wasn’t selfish at all.
So when I expressed curiosity and interest in some of his prior experiences with couples, including going to a swingers club to meet some of them, he offered to take me any time I wanted. Continue reading →
As I’ve said before, this guy provided me with so much material. Yet I find it hard to write about. Probably because I think I need to spend a lot of time explain the circumstances and background, etcetera. But honestly? I think the text messages probably just speak for themselves. So in order to purge this guy permanently from my being, I just need to share it with you.
Remember he had said he was cool with dating me. He was interested in being just with me for a while, to see where things went. After our second time together I got the following: “I’m standing here at home having a snack, in the most mellow/relaxed state ever. That was truly awesome with you today. See you. :)”
We had another date where he stayed overnight and I made breakfast for him in the morning, after some great morning sex. We talked about next dates, going out, and how fun it would be to go dancing together. All in all, things seemed to be progressing rather nicely.
We continued to chat but there was a subtle change in how much he was communicating with me. It triggered my insecurities a little bit and I was also quite curious whether he was seeing anyone else. And then it began (and sorry, it’s long – it starts with me, and the bolding is mine): Continue reading →
The next day, I decided I wanted to get exact clarity. Sometimes, I’m a glutton for punishment. I push things and ask questions even when they may hurt. But in this case, I think I needed to see the words on the page so I could make a decision about what I wanted.
Me: Are you okay with planning dates or do you only want spontaneity? Or no dates the all, just hooking up?
Him: Just hooking up, maybe a date here and there
Me: Well that pretty much reduces me to a “sex girl” for you then….even if you don’t feel that way, that’s what the result will be. So, I’m clear now on both the theory and practice of what you want. If I want to hook up I will be in touch. Continue reading →
So, our last interaction was mid-January. I saw NIM a couple of times in the next two weeks but other than that, was bereft of male physical companionship. It was around this time that I met My Giant online. I went on my sunny solo beach vacation to try to shake off the stress of my job.
I had a decent February, being fully engaged with My Giant, I met the crazy Russian, had a great first date with guy who worked downtown as a media lawyer… and then I get home one Friday night and I have a message on my home machine. Nobody ever calls me on my home machine. It’s a “text to voice” message. This robotic voice says “you have a message from XXX-XXX-XXX…Hey.”
So, I came back from my vacation with my Mom, having yet again purged his text messages from my phone. Another Friday night and I come home to a voicemail from him on my home phone. It was March 7th. This date is significant because it’s the same night that he texted my friend for the first time to see if she was available (as I wrote about in this post). Of course I didn’t know that at the time, but he was obviously trolling.
I’d had the week of the four failed dates. Yes I was in the middle of my romance with the Giant, and he was coming to visit in a few days. But, like a moth to a flame…I texted P back. Continue reading →
I’m really, truly, sorry. But hopefully it has made you laugh….more likely cringe, but I can’t really avoid telling certain stories if I’m going to maintain my honest blog status.
So like I said at the end of Volume 7, I did see him once more. There was a Friday night where I was supposed to see NIM, who bailed, per usual. I was bored. In a weak moment, I texted P. It had been a week and I had a pair of shoes on that reminded me of him. So yeah, I went there. Continue reading →