Several years ago, when I was still married, my Mom told me she was concerned I didn’t have a close-knit group of women in my life whom I could count on to be there for me no matter what.
Of course I argued with her, saying I had a couple of close friends who fell into that category.
But of course, there was real truth to her observation. One of my goals since becoming single was to build back up the friend relationships I had let go during my marriage, and build new connections as well. Freed from the restrictions of a judgey spouse who didn’t want to “take new friend applications” (yes, he said that), I could meet new people I like and invite them for dinner. I could spend quality time with existing friends and deepen or connection.
I’m rather proud of myself for doing just that. Continue reading
At the time my husband Will and I split up, he had two close male friends. One he’d known since they were pre-teens in school and the other, he’d met through work. I liked both of their wives and the six of us had the occasional dinner with or without our children (who were all in the same age range).
I was the social convener: other than the occasional email the men might exchange, the women were the ones who made sure plans were executed.
Since Will and I had an amicable divorce, it wasn’t particularly stressful for these friends to keep in touch with me. At least, not from my perspective. For the last two years, I’ve seen the women every few months. The “work wife” and I see each other only at these dinners. The “school wife” and I are good friends; she was my travel partner on my recent trip and I see her one-on-one as well. Continue reading
Last Sunday, a close girlfriend and I both found ourselves with no kids and no plans. She sent me a text asking if I wanted to go to get reflexology and a massage with her. Heck yeah. Our afternoon was lovely and completely unplanned – some relaxing treatments, dim sum, a new iPhone case, and a movie.
In the midst of our wanderings, I noticed this:
Could anything be more perfect for me right now? Dating Agency, Karaoke, and Make Up? We didn’t go – there was food to be eaten – but perhaps if things don’t work out for me soon, I will go back there.