The first was about Will and his job change. That worked out okay, as he hasn’t sued me for child support and his job hasn’t yet required him to make major life changes. Although it’s been an adjustment for both Liam and I to be back to week on / week off parenting, it’s much better for Liam and ultimately, for me.
The second was about Tony, and what the hell I was going to do with him. I ended things with him almost two weeks ago – am 99% sure it’s permanent – and so at least resolved the stress of the unknown. Even though I’m still sad and angry at times. it’s all natural, and I’m feeling all the gross feelings and working through it, day by day.
But today, I am beyond thrilled to say I am no longer redundant. I’ve been offered a position with the same company, and it’s a great opportunity. I’m thrilled. While I was willing to find a new home if necessarily, I really didn’t want to. I’ve been on the change train enough the last 18 months.
So I think a few drinks are in order; weight loss be damned for the moment. Cheers!
For the first time in my life, I’ve become “redundant”. It’s truly not personal nor is it performance based – my company is going through a massive restructuring, aided by an international top strategy consulting firm, and the decision was made to combine my team and another team. Obviously, they don’t need two senior executives to run one team. Both me and my colleague are out and they are looking for someone new.
BUT. I’m not totally gone. My former department has offered me a short-term assignment – basically to save me from being exited from the company. Not everyone is so lucky. Several are getting a severance package today.
It still sucks ass. My direct reports and my team are going to be very distraught. There will continue to be lots of change and unknowns for them. We were building something new and amazing and I was looking forward to it. Continue reading →
“NOW” didn’t actually mean now. Tony is frantically getting ready for a big project for work and had no time yesterday to talk, let alone text or visit. It’s not looking good for today either.
And I’m not about to say anything like “I have to talk to you”.
So, it just may happen that I don’t get the chance before my party. C’est la vie.
But on the good news front, I’m officially divorced now. The courts signed back our application for an uncontested divorce. It’s done. I don’t really feel any different, except now I know I’d better get around to revising my will.
And I had my general contractor in today to do some things in my house and he fixed the alignment of my bedroom door so that it finally latches and locks.
So, progress in some areas but not others. Not all is lost.
I didn’t have any time today to write a blog post because I was a) working, b) getting my eyelashes tinted and brows waxed (one of my few girly girl things), c) buying liquor, and d) getting ready for my date.
Therefore, perhaps I can make you laugh. I liked this so much that I may have snorted my proscecco whilst watching. A peek into what I find funny:
In other news, apparently I’m almost the perfect woman. According to whatsyourprice.com (which is kinda like selling women but who am I to judge), based on a survey of 100,000 men, here are the characteristics of a “perfect” woman:
blonde hair >> check!!
blue eyes >> check!!
slender body >> um…
non-smoker >> check!!
social drinker >> check!!
graduate degree >> check!!
This is such a sad state in the world when perfection, apparently, has nothing to do with personality or character.
(and for those of you who don’t know me all that well, I am joking. I am so far from the perfect woman, and I know it)
I have a post-it note on my desk that says “BED BY 11PM”. It’s been there for 2 nights. Last night it didn’t work. Tonight I simply must sleep. There are dark circles under my eyes and I want to feel great for my date tomorrow night.
I’m super excited to have a real grown-up date where a) we can go out somewhere and b) not have to worry about locking my door and c) be able to hang for a little bit in the morning together.
We are having dinner at my favorite Italian food restaurant at the end of my street – Tony wanted Italian food so I made the suggestion. Then bowling or some other adventure. We are both excited.