Tony met Shenanigans. Hy didn’t meet Fox.

Hy and I are side by side on my purple leather couch. We are both still exceedingly hungover from our previous evening. 

“I’m pretty sure this is what half-dead feels like”, she says.

I have a lot to say, but it’s not going to be right now. Here are some quick facts to tide you over:

Fox has decided again that he’s done. He didn’t meet Hy. We didn’t even make it to the farmers market.

I’ve seen Tony twice in the last two days.

Shenanigans met Tony, in my house. They shook hands. Tony brought us all lattes.

Shenanigans came over the night before, after Hy and I had been out partying. I was otherwise occupied, throwing up and passing out from too much red wine. 

So Shenanigans fell prey to the wonder of Hyacinth Jones. We think she started it, but the details are a little fuzzy. 

Hy and I shared a bed with both Tony and Shenanigans. Maybe at the same time.

We’ve now heard (and seen, in one case), the other having sex.

Lots of cheese and wine has been consumed.

It’s been a wild and fun weekend and we aren’t even done yet. 

58 thoughts on “Tony met Shenanigans. Hy didn’t meet Fox.

  1. Fox would definatelly be done if he would know this. Glad you had fun.
    I’m glad you can do this…
    My heart and head are too attached to be able to do that….
    I wish I could …sometimes!

  2. Lol!
    Well, that was one way of ending it I guess. Now… Fox may tell bad things to his daughter and he’ll feel completely entitled to do so πŸ˜‰
    Shenanigans probably didn’t know what hit him!
    Sorry about the too much wine, but sort of glad this happened. At least you will stop killing yourself over what to do re Fox!

    You naughty and fun girls! Sort of makes me wish I’d been there πŸ˜‰
    (Can you tell I’m sort of craving… things!?)
    Can’t wait for you to tell us more about what happened. Hoping you’ll still feel like giggling when you do though (always my fear when alcohol is involved)

    Oh, was the wine brought by Shenanigans?
    Right. Back to sleep for me!

    • As I said above – Fox decided it was over (again) on Thursday. And I stopped trying to figure it out at that point.

      And no!! Shenanigans showed up empty handed.

      And I may have seen deliberately provocative in one line above and it’s technically true but probably not what you think happened.

      • I figured that one out, that you were being provocative with the line of the four of you sharing a bed…
        Sharing a bed doesn’t mean sharing bodily fluids, and not even seeing someone else share theirs πŸ˜‰
        If Fox put up more drama on Thursday, then… no reason absolutely to go on and do whatever it is you wanted to do. Does Fox drama have anything to do with Tony seeing you two days in a row (I mean, Tony seeing you on Thursday, cause obviously by Friday, it had no bearing!)?
        About Shenanigans… at least it’s good to know what to expect with him, isn’t it? He’s reliable in his callousness!
        Well, glad you could have a fun weekend with a friend after all the drama you’ve been through the past couple of weeks!

        • Yeah, there was no foursome going on lol. That would have been *insane*.

          The Fox drama was not causal at all to me seeing Tony. But when I saw him the first time it was primarily because I was curious how it would feel to see him, and then whether it made me think differently of Fox.

          But to be clear – I had made no promises to Fox to be exclusive while I was taking my break from things.

          • I know all that Ann. You don’t need to justify yourself with me πŸ™‚
            I’m glad the drama with Fox is over (Hi Fox!).
            I’m glad you got to see Tony… and now I’ll wait to read how it makes you feel a few days on πŸ™‚

          • I know my dear πŸ™‚

            Yes it was nice to see him. I’m glad Hy got to meet him; her impressions were interesting to hear. But it’s not as if there has been some big change and it’s all romance and sunshine with him. So I need to figure out what I’m going to do, if anything.

          • Not sure if you’ve read Hy’s post yet, but she’s encouraged me to decide what I want and if I can accept what he can give me, enjoy it. But – similar to what I did several months ago when I backed away somewhat – I filled my life with other stuff and saw him when he reached out and enjoyed that. But it’s hard to not want more.

          • I don’t know which post you’re referring to… I did read her post on chemistry.
            I sort of agree with her, but you know that πŸ˜‰
            It IS hard not to want more. But… it’s a decision only you can make, what works for you πŸ™‚

      • Understood.
        I just don’t like these guys adopting a “revolving door” policy with you. I know you may disagree, but Fox – and Tony to a point – appear to think they can pop in and out of your life whenever the mood suits them.

        You’re no one’s doormat, Ann. And I know you can take care of yourself, but what kind of friend would I be if I didn’t voice my feelings?

        You’re a woman of deep feelings and you’ve developed an emotional relationship with Fox and Tony, one they don’t seem to treat with the care and respect it deserves.

        Hope you understand why I’m saying this.
        Take care.

        • Completely agree that Shenanigans is like that. And I honestly had no intention of actually seeing him when I responded to his texts from earlier last week, but things got a little out of hand and then a certain someone took my phone and encouraged him to come over…

          I’m not sure Fox is like that at all. He wants to be in my life all the time. Well, at least he did.

          And Tony? Well, I guess it depends on what you think his motivation is. Does he love me? I believe so. Is he using me when he reaches out? No; there is genuine affection and care, and he tries to be available to me.

          Does he want what he can give me to be enough for me, and is he too caught up in his own shit to be everything I’d ideally like him to be? Absolutely, there’s no question. But I don’t think it’s malicious. Now, that doesn’t make the end result different.

          And you can always say what you’re feeling. I appreciate different points of view and do try to hear what people have to say, even when I don’t like it.

      • Yeah, but that’s really beside the point. The point is that PUA assholes like that use “game” techniques to manipulate women, and by responding to him (whether you fucked him this time or not), you’re validating all his shit-test behavior and letting him know it works.

        I admit that “game” running douches like this are one of my personal pet peeves. You are obviously free to do whatever you like. But I will say that between Shenanigans and getting back on the Tony merry-go-round, I do have to question what exactly it is you are looking for, because it’s starting to seem to me like either you don’t really know, or you don’t care about staying stuck in self-defeating patterns.

        • You’re just going to have to take my word for it that there was nothing self defeating with my contact with Shenanigans. It’s had no emotional impact with me.

          I’m not necessarily back on any ride with Tony. But yes I do need to think about what is good for me.

          • To be clear, I know Shenanigans has no emotional impact, I’m just pointing out that continuing to respond to and engage him on any level validates his manipulative and douchey behavior *to him*, which means he’s sees it as something that works to get responses from women and will continue to be that guy with other women. I know you don’t have any responsibility to anyone other than yourself, but as I said, guys like that who use those techniques are just one of my pet peeves. C’est la vie.

          • I can’t believe I’m going to defend him and it’s certainly not because I want to keep engaging him… But Im not quite sure he’s *that* kind of douche. I’d be interested to hear Hy’s impression now that she’s met him. He is awkward and insecure and can be callous towards me. He gets petulant and he’s judgey. But he doesn’t strike me as a player in the way you might be thinking. He was SO awkward about having slept with Hy without me. It was comical and made us think perhaps it was out of character for him to do that kind of thing.

            But I could be wrong.

            And I do try to make the world a better place when I can πŸ™‚

          • Actually, your description of his real life awkwardness only reinforces the idea that he’s running shitty “game” routines during social/text interactions as a way to mask his insecurities. If you’ve ever read the book “The Game” (and you should, given that you’re ostensibly going to be back in the dating world again), you’ll see that the whole PUA paradigm is built for guys who are unconfident and awkward as a type of hack to get with women. And it’s good as a single woman for you to recognize those behaviors when you see them.

            It could be that Shenanigans actually is an okay guy underneath all that PUA bullshit, but the fact that he sees it working on you (even by virtue of you just continuing to respond to him) tells him to keep doing it.

  3. You are certainly having a more exciting weekend than I am. It’s good to cut loose every once in a while and blow off some of that tension you’ve been experience in the last couple of weeks. I’ve been following Hy for a little while now but have yet to make comment. But you two are becoming some of my favorite bloggers.

  4. Oh my oh my oh my! You do need to catch us up!

    No surprise on Fox though. You probably didn’t jump back into his arms fast enough or repentant enough

  5. Wow. Yes – fill in the blanks! I have this feeling that Tony will always be “there”… and maybe that’s the way it’s supposed to be… and maybe that one day will come that makes all the difference. (And I truly do hope I didn’t offend you before.)

    • It was fun until I was sitting on my bathroom floor with my head on my toilet seat :/

      But then the surreal events kicked in with Hy and Shenanigans and it just got weird until mid afternoon the next day.

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