Wow. As of today I have 1,001 followers:
As I said in June when I noticed I had 900 followers, I know there is some overlap in this number between Twitter and WordPress. I think many of my Twitter followers are promoting their own wares (such as dating and porn sites). I also seem to attract porn stars and while I’d love to think they are reading my stuff, I’m a little cynical.
I also know following isn’t the same as being engaged. But for all the arguments I can come up with as to how this number isn’t “real”, it still feels pretty good.
A year ago this time I had 500 followers. Is 500 per year a lot? I have no idea. I’ve learned to not benchmark against anyone else’s success. I’ve seen bloggers with tens of thousands of followers and barely any comments. What I do here, and what I get from it, is perfect for me.
I don’t do many things other bloggers do to expand their audience. After my fuck up with Google+ I got rid of it. I’m not on Facebook because I’m NSFW and it’s overwhelming to think of creating more content. I tried posting some stories on Reddit which spikes my views but doesn’t translate into followers or commenters (with a couple of notable exceptions – hello fellows).
I forget about Twitter and don’t constantly promote my content there. I’ve been pretty bad lately about commenting on other people’s blogs (sorry). I don’t participate in the daily memes common to sex bloggers (the exception being my exceptional friend Hy and Boobday, once in a while). I have been asked to write for different blogs and content aggregators and while I’m incredibly flattered anyone would think me worthy, I don’t think I can take more on and I’m bad at “top 10” posts.
I’ve never made it to any “top blogger” list – and while I can pretend to not care, not being on Rori’s Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2014 did hurt. There were so many blogging friends there and it was hard to not be in that amazing club.
But people seem to find me anyway.
I just do what I’ve done from the start – write about what I’m going through with as much honestly and frankness as I can muster. I will say it over and over again – I am consistently amazed at how wonderful and supportive this community is. I have real life friends I met through blogging – something I had no idea was even possible.
I remain honored every single time someone follows, reads, or comments.
P.S. For the stats junkies (I’m looking at you, Will), here are the other stats which took me by surprise today:
I simply can’t imagine I’ve written close to 600,000 words on this blog, but generally each post is around 1,000 words. It also makes me wonder if I’m vulnerable to losing my content – should probably get on that. I also have no sense whether the number of views or visitors is good / bad / indifferent, but I just shake my head in amazement. Thank you, again.