A brief Saturday update.

“If they can’t find me, they can’t fire me.
– an expression I used to say at work.

Well, it feels like that’s what’s happening with Tony. As planned and true to my word, I reached out to him last night to confirm he was available to chat. He texted he had a horrible migraine and would try to stay awake for my call.

When I called him he sounded like death. There was no way he was going to really hear what I had to say. We had a 20 second conversation that ended with me saying “I will talk to you some other time.”

Today I had Liam and we ran some errands and I took him to my parents for an overnight. I didn’t want to call Tony in the car and ran out of time before I had to meet a close girlfriend for lunch.

But I texted to ask if he’d be around a couple of hours later. He said no; he had a work-related event and was pretty jammed all day. Fine. I texted “I will try again some other time.”

This is getting ridiculous.

I will try once more – likely tomorrow since I’ll be with Fox overnight, who has just returned from a week long business trip – and then if that doesn’t work the dude is getting an email.


I’m sorting through some pictures on my computer and found a screen shot that made me literally laugh out loud.

This guy is #54 of the men I’ve had sex with. Never got around to writing about him. He has been in touch sporadically. When I considered going back to see the Dom (when I ended up seeing Tony) I had reached out to a number of former lovers to see if they wanted to join me. He was one I contemplated contacting.

But that’s not what’s funny.

The one sex / swingers club I’ve been to has their own website where you create a profile and can interact with other members. My profile doesn’t show my face but has some body shots. I got a friend request so checked out the profile; I knew it was him. I accepted the friend request and quickly got a message. Here is his message and my response:

Thank you for accepting my friend request

He texted me on my phone and inquired how he was supposed to know it was me from my pictures. We had a good laugh about it. He wasn’t available to go with me, obviously.

He continued to ask to see me and would send naughty texts off and on since then, but after meeting Fox I didn’t ever respond in kind. Just last week, out of the blue, he sent me a picture of him with a terrible sunburn, then two pictures of him going down on a naked woman on a beach. I said “who is that and why are you sending those to me?”

Unsurprisingly, I’ve not heard from him since.

27 thoughts on “A brief Saturday update.

  1. Ah, yes, just another boring Saturday in Ann St Vincent’s life!
    I agree with you, give Tony one more chance and then email him.
    As for the other guy… it’s pretty funny, indeed! Why would anyone randomly send pictures of them in a sex act with someone else if that person never even knew to expect such pictures? Some aspects of the North American culture I really don’t get!

  2. ANN! Omg! I was wondering what was up with you! I really wondered what you decided with Tony, I was kinda happy to see him mentioned! I lost my full time job and have been in a funk, barely checking my email let alone paying attention to the blogs that I had loved so much! I know I have a lot of catching up to do! I was just glad to see Tony mentioned, even if you are irritated with him. He seemed right for you. I’ll catch up, I promise, just won’t promise how timely I will be!

    • JULIE!! I’ve been wondering what happened to you. So sorry to hear about your job – that sucks. Feel free to email me; would love to hear what’s going on with you.

      There’s a new boyfriend – he’s amazing. Fox. Can’t wait to hear what you think πŸ™‚

      • awww… so wonderful to think I’ve been missed! I have thought of you so often Ann, and wondered how things were going for you, I just couldn’t bring myself to look at the world. I gotta see what’s up with Fox! Please feel free to reach out to me if you ever wonder where I am! (I think you got my email info) There are a couple blogs I follow that have reached out to me in my absence. Just in a funk, I hope to find another job I love as much as the last (i have now said that 3 times) and life as I once knew it will return to normal. I have a weirdly honest relationship with you. I often sugar coat, or try to be supportive of most of my friends, but somehow, with you, I seem to be able to say what I think. Even if it is against everyone else’s opinion. Perhaps it is my own wish for that ever elusive brass ring, or my hope that you find it. Whatever it is Ann, I am in your corner!

  3. I was going to say, why not email him, that way he can’t get away and he can’t interject (not that he would). Good luck either way. Hope you can speak your piece/peace soon.
    (Is it piece or peace? I always thought it was peace, but I’ve seen it out the other way.)

    • Well, he’s not going to argue with me. He agreed with me back in May that he’s not ready and I have no reason to think it’s any different now.

      I can definitely speak my piece and I’d rather do it live πŸ™‚

  4. Jebus. Too hard basket with Tony! Some things never change, why bother explaining?! Just go on your merry way πŸ™‚

    As for the unsolicited pics? Bloody hell, that would have had me telling him off so badly!

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