Getting stoned, having a nipple orgasm, and opening up | Part One

It was not a usual date for either of us. I went straight from the airport to Tony’s house. I was hungover and exhausted. Since Wednesday I had non-stop work and social engagements, and not a lot of sleep the last two nights. But I desperately wanted to see him.

Tony wasn’t in the greatest frame of mind either. He’d had a huge fight with his ex that day, and was also exhausted.

But we persevered. Shortly after I arrived he asked if I was hungry. I wasn’t. He was, so of course I said I would go out then anyway. He said he had to run an errand first to see a friend. My hopes got up that perhaps this meant I was going to meet one of his friends. My brain said “yay! I’m a real girl in his mind!”

Nope.

He had to buy weed. He joked on the car ride over about how he’s never taken a woman on a drug run before. We had a good laugh about it. I stayed in the car, not even getting to meet his drug dealer friend. I tried not to read into it.

Afterward, we went to a total shithole restaurant with good burgers. Burgers, onion rings, and vanilla shakes are not a great way to feel svelte. It helped somewhat with my hangover but I was still fighting a headache. After that, we went back to his place. Plans to watch a movie or to be taught poker went out the window. We lay on his couch and didn’t say as much as we usually did. I practiced enjoying the silence.

He has a vaporizer he uses to smoke weed. I haven’t smoked since the time my friend’s husband hit on me, and at the time I couldn’t really inhale because I coughed like mad. The vaporizer was way better, but I was cautious how much I took because I don’t smoke that often and I also know that this pot is way stronger than what I was used to in college.

We went upstairs to his bedroom.

The buzz was lovely and it enhanced some of the sensations of his hands and mouth on mine. For the first time ever, I had an orgasm from nipple stimulation. It was rather awesome. Tony busted out a new move, a new thing with his tongue on my nipple, and it sent me over the edge.

He wasn’t at the top of his game. It was good at first but I have yet to successfully be on top… he had a great erection that disappeared the moment I lowered myself on to him. He got it back, not with the same position, yet wasn’t able to finish.

Not all was lost, I still had some good orgasms but I was very frustrated.

I asked him about it that night – carefully and in context – and he said he thinks he needs to stop masturbating so much. According to him, it makes a difference to how hard he can get. He said he was home on Friday and super horny and he masturbated so much he worried whether he would be able to perform with me the next day.

I asked him whether marijuana would make it worse, and he said he thought that since he’d been using for 17 years he doubted it made a difference.

I asked him if he’d ever used a cock ring and he said no but was willing to try.

I asked him if he’d ever used Cialis or Viagra, saying I had some. He had used Cialis once. It didn’t make a big difference the night of but he said he had crazy strong erections for the next four days.

Noted.

He asked me why the heck I had some, and I explained a friend gave me a sample after I had complained about a few bad dates with men who had issues. And before you get pissy that I wasn’t 100% honest, there was no way I was going to say it was specifically for him.

I asked him to help me cum again. He was happy to oblige with his hands, and it helped take the edge off. I was able to sleep.

While we finally tackled some sex questions that night, I had no idea the next morning he would help me understand his emotional state as well.

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    • I am not sure whether this is something you can tutor someone into doing. I fear it may vary greatly between women. And within the same woman, it varies with all sorts of things, like the partner (how comfortable do you feel with him, is he a new partner or not), how aroused you are, and also how you like to be touched. And just like no two women will come from being touched exactly the same way between their legs, I think it is the same for nipples. I know that I like a very light touch at first, and that being touched there, nipples just grazed, while enjoying a deep kiss and a great connection, that is usually enough to take me over the edge. But sometimes, or later in the evening, I also enjoy being gently bitten or pinched, I enjoy having my breasts slapped, and just a gentle roll of my nipples between two fingers or a very light brush. And that’s only for one woman. Simply at different times of her arousal cycle. So I am afraid it is difficult to answer your question 🙂
      My best advice would be to make sure the woman feels comfortable and totally relaxed and ready to accept that nipple orgasm is even a possibility. I wasn’t aware of that for the longest time and must say thanks FSOG. And then I still needed to learn to let go and welcome all sorts of orgasms.
      Be open to your partner’s reactions, listen to her moans, look at her face… ask her questions and tell her what you’re trying to achieve. Communicate about it. That’s the best advice I could give you 🙂

      • It could be that the angle is too severe for his anatomy and the blood flow is impeded. It could be that he has lower back pain or discomfort in that position. It is easy to think about all of the negative reasons that he has so much difficulty, but I suspect that it is merely a product of his body not being suited to the position.

        There are certain positions that I enjoy less and we tend not to do them as much (due to my lower back problems), so we maximize the others.

        I am quite pleased with you broaching his hydraulics issue and the manner in which you initiated the discussion. You handled that quite well!

  1. Ohh aren’t nipple orgasms awesome?! *sigh* i only ever experience them with him and I cherish each and every one of them. Good on you for having approached the conversation. FWIW being completely honest about why you have the Cialis sample would have been brutal and no good would come from that. Now, as for the cock ring…disposable silicone cock rings…

  2. I tend to think that the smoking can impact sexual performance as well. And telling him he was the cause for cilias would have been mean, you did the right thing telling him how you did.
    When I was with B, he could go for hours but with age and his years of chronic pot use, his level of hardness was impacted. He bought some cialis off of a friend and would use them for our dates. With the cialis we found it worked best of he took it two days leading to our visit and the day of. He would get an instant erection even just from the breeze. Lol. Hopefully Tony is willing to try it even just once to see if it can help.

  3. I think the pot has more to do with it than he’d like to admit. I thought his headspace would have cleared by now, though it does sound like the sex is getting better. I hope you can find the solution.

  4. There are many studies on THC and male sexuality and the permanent damage it does to male reproductive organs. Most are easily dismissed as biased or lacking controlled subjects, but there are many and there has to be some merit when conclusions seem to be so synchronous.

  5. I’ve come so close to nipple orgasms!!! And not meeting friends doesn’t mean anything. My boyfriend brought me to his friends all the time, and we hung out with his daughter too. It last a little under 2 months.

    • I do think not meeting friends does mean something, when you have an opportunity to do so and choose to not. He also has lots of colleagues and others in his life that don’t yet know he’s even split from his ex.

      • Holy fuck! Really? My ex-husband (we split up end of Oct.) hasn’t told most people in his circle yet either. The only who know are the more common friends between us. I wonder why they do that?

  6. Right, let me just say YAY for the nipple orgasms!
    And also YAY for the conversation. Like everyone else, I think it was probably the safest approach to tell him like that.
    I HAVE to get to writing and I am just trying to catch up on reading too… Sigh!
    Good luck on everything. I read your next post and I know you just may need it…
    I agree, timing is everything :-/
    XO

  7. Can you give him a BJ to completion? Just wondering if it is that he is so nervous to not perform well, his brain is not letting him perform? I am sure being with you could be a little bit intimidating…

    • He could rarely come to completion anyway other than his own masturbation. It’s often how he would finish, even after very good sex. It was different in the morning than the evening.

      Some have suggested his daily marijuana usage has impacted his abilities. Certainly in the early days I think it was also nervousness, and the issues got somewhat better as he got more comfortable with me.

      I try very hard not to be intimidating 🙂

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