Last night I was at a friend’s house – we had a playdate with our children including dinner and watching part of the Oscars.
We caught up on life, work, her dating updates, the delight of the beginning state of my relationship with Tony, and the insanity of Will’s potential job change. She kept asking (rhetorically) when Will’s mid-life crisis was going to end.
As we watched all the ridiculously beautiful and thin actresses on the red carpet, she mentioned that a few of my “former guys” had reached out to her on the dating sites. She occasionally checks in with me to see if I know the guys that are reaching out to her.
I said “oh that’s funny…who?”
Now, I forgive those of you who are newer to my blog for not immediately guessing… but those of you who have been around for a while? The scenario might ring some bells.
He texted her again on the dating site – something like “hey looking good how is your Thursday going?” It’s not even the second time…I think he did it again a few months ago.
What the hell does he expect? She’s going to be so impressed by my stories of his prowess that she’s going to reply? Or that she’ll pass on his hello to me and I’ll be jealous? When he pulled that stunt last year, going so far as to mention my name, he first tried to say he was just being friendly. I called bullshit and he then admitted that yeah, he was hoping she might respond and be interested.
After our last time together (which was the first time in many months), we didn’t text each other. Ironically the last time I was out with her I mentioned I hadn’t heard from him – and I guess I put something out into the universe because later that night he texted me. It was innocuous and boring and although I responded a few times, the conversation trailed off.
A part of me wanted to text him and ask him what the fuck he thought he was doing by reaching out – again – to one of my best friends. Then I realized no matter what, a response from me wouldn’t do me any good. I decided to not give him the satisfaction.
But it still pissed me off.
I’d be interested in any theories to explain his douchebaggy behavior…