Very Inspiring Blogger Award | The answer to one question

This is not the actual thank you for the award I just received. But I saw something today I wanted to share, and it answers one of the award questions: whether I have a cause.

The answer is YES. I don’t talk about my cause on this blog, or my Mother’s background in social services, or how I volunteered for “Meals on Wheels” as a child, even on Christmas Day, or any of the work I’ve done on Boards for social service organizations.

I don’t write about it because it’s never come up, as far as I can remember. I don’t think anyone reads this blog to hear me pontificate on my political or social views. Sex sells, baby. But hey, if I’m wrong, by all means let me know.

The primary focus of my charitable financial giving has been to organizations that provide direct assistance to those who cannot support or defend themselves. That includes animals, but primarily people – specifically those who live in poverty, and those who are abused. I also donate money to Cancer research due to family history.

Giving money is one thing. Giving time is another. Since I was my son’s age, I have given my time to these organizations. Until recently, I have also put my business knowledge and fundraising skills to use as a Board member. I had to give it up when I took the job in another country, since I couldn’t commit the time. Once my ex returns, I will get back on another board.

I saw this video today and thought I should share it. You may want a kleenex nearby. Just saying.

If desired you can read the background here: Distractify | They thought they were going into a shelter and it was a five-star restaurant

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    • Absolutely. People tend to believe they can’t “afford” to help others. While sure, only a few can name hospital wings and create foundations, I have given money since I was little (and we had very little money to give). And I didn’t grow up affluent in the slightest.

      The other option, of course, is time. Which is also at a premium, of course.

      I’m going to think about how to start to engage my son in active assistance. He will grow up relatively privileged and it’s very important he have a sense of what life is like for the vast majority of the earth’s citizens.

      • I forget your son’s age and not sure where you live, but I know for some places M was able to be a “junior volunteer” which meant I was there with him. His school also did a lot to promote things like environmental stewardship and acceptance of others, which led to M getting involved in other causes.

        • He’s little, so it would be things we do together. His school is pretty good, but not hands on enough for my liking.

          One of the best things my Mom insisted on was my delivering meals on wheels. There is nothing like actually seeing how people live, talking to elderly people living in poverty, to bring it all home how privileged we are.

  1. I generally tend to keep my charitable donations quiet. I don’t know why, but it seems like mentioning it is bragging on me. I found it interesting that my kids had requirements in college for community service. My girl cleaned up a local cemetery, and “adopted” a family just arrived from another country, providing essentials, food staples, toiletries, grooming tools. She took it a step further, knowing the family had a baby and also bought some extra baby stuff that wasn’t on her list. Nice things to do, but it seems to take away a little bit when recited…

    • I don’t talk about how much I give, but i dont think saying i give is boasting. But probably because i have always done so.

      Its so great your kids are doing that – and i also like that its mandatory in schools.

      • I am mixed about it, I think it is a great lesson, but if it is mandatory, it kinda takes away from the volunteer aspect. Which is what my girl pointed out, even though she got the right “feeling” out of her activities. It is only recently, that I feel financially secure enough to look at some organized charities. I was always pretty big on random acts of kindness.

        • I can see both sides for sure. On the one hand, if children do it and they see the benefit, perhaps it will continue. On the other, it’s not volunteering when you have to do it 🙂

  2. Every so often I think writing about something other than sex is a good thing. Sex may sell but we all like seeing your other squishy sides too dearling.


  3. I really like this idea and the video. What a wonderful team of people that put this together!
    The problem I have with homeless people is whether I should help them when I see them begging on the streets. I never give money to young people, but I do give money to elders because seeing them like that breaks my heart.
    It is the same here, in Thailand, when you see small children selling peanuts and other snacks in bars at night. I never buy it from them. I don’t want to encourage their parents to send them to the streets, but then will I change anything by not buying from them? How do I know that this child won’t go hungry if they don’t earn any money?

    • That’s why I give money and time to charities that help people directly. Sometimes I give money on the street but it’s different where I live – we don’t have the children doing what you describe above. But I’ve traveled to places like that and it is always a quandary.

  4. I agree. Giving back, in service of others has been part of my life since I was a child, thanks in large part to my Dad. It’s something that’s always been part of my world and what we try to instill in our kids. It’s also something we do as a family as well as individually and yet we don’t really talk about it publicly, so to speak as it’s more about how we pay our rent during our time on earth. It’s a requirement for graduation at many of the high schools, public & private, here in the Seattle area, and I admit I was proud to receive a letter from kidlet #1’s school saying she had fulfilled her requirement before the end of her freshman year based on the volunteer work she does in the community on her own.

  5. I came from humble means. My parents split when I was still in diapers and my mother had to support us on her own for a few years. When I was 14, she split from her abusive husband and again, we had nothing. Those times of not having anything left an indelible mark on me and that has been something that leads me to do for others. It is beyond easy to simply give money to charities however I hate funding executive privilege to those atop the “do-good” organizations where pennies-on-the-hundred-dollars actually find their way to their purported beneficiaries. Don’t take this wrong, money is needed and should be given to those truly in need,

    One of the first times that I came to understand true poverty was when my military unit was dispatched to a West African country, While there, a few dozen of my comrades spent what little free time we had in rehabilitating orphanages. Seeing the abject poverty and deplorable conditions is enough to make one want to spend every free and waking moment serving and giving to these people – which we did. A dear friend once told me that there is nothing more giving or caring than getting your hands dirty helping others. One of the phrases he used was, “getting someone’s snot smeared on your clothes” as being a badge of honor to remind yourself that it is ok to get down and exist at the level of someone in need.

    I still do this today and demonstrate this to my kids by taking them with me into these situations in my community. Giving of your time and from your heart is messy and dirty and you won’t necessarily feel better for doing it, but the people you serve will.

    • Thanks for such a thoughtful comment, Will. It’s one of the reasons I focus my giving on charities that deal directly with the population in needs, who also have low administration costs. It’s a great thing to be demonstrating to your children… and I can’t imagine the impact your travels would have had. One thing that is on my life list is to take a sabattical from work and go build wells somewhere. That kind of thing.

      • Like you, I am not one to talk about that side of what I do. I hate to tout ME when giving of myself is never about me or making ME feel good (I have a lot of difficulties surrounding that sort of commentary – “I do this because it makes me feel good” bleh!).

        What I have seen and been witness too would change anyone’s perspective, especially in the Western world. No impoverished person in SE Asia, Africa, etc. drives Escalades or has large screen LCDs on their walls (I can qualify that comment if you want to talk offline).

        One of the most fulfilling jobs that I had was when I worked for a global non-profit that pioneered bringing medicines and clean water to these regions. We operated on shoestring budgets to ensure that as much of the donation and grant money was used to benefit the intended people.

        I hope that you do take your sabbatical. It will utterly and permanently change you. .

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