Dan came over last Friday night. I had thought it would be earlier but in my ongoing attempt to not be a pain in the ass, I didn’t bombard him with questions. He arrived around 10pm and he brought me takeout since I said I was hungry.
I told him I wanted to go out. He told me if I was coughing just from being outside briefly, perhaps that wasn’t a good idea. I think he was being sincere.
We talked and drank a little and he made me laugh. He is a funny and caring guy. There is a genuine kindness that I like and find attractive.
He makes no first physical moves, other than the occasional touch. It is unusual and I hope to understand it better. But he is very responsive once I get him going.
I took him upstairs and we enjoyed the touch of each other’s hands. He told me it felt sooooo good…that at the end of the day he feels beaten up and I felt amazing. So I did it some more, naturally.
I had an opportunity to seduce in a way I haven’t in a while (it wasn’t dissimilar from the last time he and I were together, but the insight occurred to me this time). When I am with a dominant man who is making all the moves, and we progress quickly to sex (which was what it was like with Andrew) there is no time and space to think about what delightful thing to tease or pleasure them with next.
I had time, this time. It was lovely.
The sex was WAY better. I would link to my sexual lunchbox letdown post but the iPhone app sucks. This time I was more vocal with feedback, telling him what I wanted and what I liked. We had sex for hours. He is amazed at my capacity to orgasm. He showed me a new sexual position (ironically one I wanted to try with Faraway Lover), and I achieved the orgasm which has eluded me with the last few).
He touches. Takes his time. Enjoys and appreciates me.
It reminds me of something he said our first night together – “you’ve been neglected”. So fucking hot.
He left at 3am. I have heard from him since, both text and phone. Not as much as I would like, naturally, but I am working on chilling out about the whole thing.