Last night, I reveled in being alone in my house for the first time in a while. My son has gone to his Dad’s until Christmas Day. Here’s what I did:
- Made nachos
- Drank a bottle of Perrier straight out of the bottle (oooohhh I know, such a badass)
- Watched the TV show “Masters of Sex”
- Made some investment decisions
- Watched an episode of “Boardwalk Empire”
- Gmail chatted with a fellow blogger
- Texted with two men
- Registered my son for winter swimming lessons
- Deleted a whole bunch of messages on online dating sites
- Coordinated with a lawyer and my ex, Will, for getting our divorce papers finalized
Yup, it was a successful night.
I have not heard from Dan in 48 hours. I’m sure the moment this post gets published I will hear from him. That’s kinda how he’s been.
But, today I am meeting two men.
The first I met on FetLife two weeks ago. He’s 44 and a Dom. He’s in an open marriage and also has a girlfriend. He’s one of only two men to whom I proactively reached out. I wanted to talk to him about the Dominant / submissive interactions. He knows his stuff.
So we messaged back and forth for a bit then moved it to text. It hasn’t been sexy talk at all, just some general discussion about “the lifestyle” and his arrangements. We are meeting for lunch near my office. I’m sure some of you are going to ask “why, Ann? To what end?”
Well, I want to learn more. I’m not seeing him as a potential play partner but I suppose it’s possible. I’ve been thinking a lot recently about sex partners versus relationship partners. I definitely want the latter, and am being a lot pickier about who I engage with.
But I also want sex. Pretty much all the time. So as I keep looking for a relationship, I am also keeping myself open to the thought of a play partner. Perhaps only in a swingers club scene. No sense getting all messy with emotions.
Who knows, it’s all a theory. But I think this guy can help me understand more about D/s and that’s a good thing.
Then, at 7pm I am meeting a 29 year-old I also met on FetLife (so I guess it’s FetLife day!!). He’s the other I reached out to proactively because he spelled “pique” correctly in his profile. As you know it’s a pet peeve of mine. So I sent him a joking email congratulating him.
We ended up messaging each other a lot. He’s intelligent, tall, handsome, witty, and a professional guy. He is also absolutely not looking for a relationship. He said he seeks novelty.
So why a drink with him? Novelty. I’m curious to see what he’s like. I have no intention of sleeping with him tonight. Because gee – if he is a novelty seeker then as soon as I fuck him, he’s moving on.
He was one of the two I was texting last night.
The other? Well, he’s a new catch. I unhid my Plenty of Fish profile two days ago (I have since hid it again). He caught my eye. He’s 6’2″, handsome, Italian, bald (as they all seem to be…NIM, Jason, Andrew, Johnny, etc…), funny, flirty, and smart.
I will write more about him. I’m hoping to meet him later this week for a date. He has potential but I also think given the nature of our conversation (which isn’t constantly sexy, but he goes there) it’s unlikely he’s serious. He professes to be but I don’t have the balls to tell him that’s what they all say.
Should be an interesting day!