This one made me feel a little sad and totally creeped out at the same time.
The first message that came in from this 54 year-old “Top” with a spanking fetish was kinda cute:
“Hello. I just wanted to say hello as I stumbled upon your profile and you piqued my curiosity…. Spank ya later ;o)”
And as you may remember, given pique is so rarely spelled correctly, ever, I figured it warranted a response. I said:
“I can’t tell you how much it pleases me to have someone spell “pique” correctly 🙂 What is it about my profile that interests you?”
No matter, I was moving on. But then a couple of days later, I get this:
“How are you ???…
You indicated By day your a straight laced executive…
Honestly…. seriously… may i ask?..
I humbly have to share I am embarrassed to share that I am unemployed and could use a little help if you inclined or have some thoughts productive advice I would be appreciative…
I can’t believe how insulting it is to be told repeatedly your over qualified over experienced.
If you are sincerely interested in being helpful, I could pass along my LinkedIn.
I felt bad for the guy. But I didn’t respond.
The next morning, I get this:
“Hello me again…
First off I trust I have not upset you with asking for help as it is difficult to ask for help in the first place..
So on FL your not interested in online play ( ya who is?) or a casual encounter what is on your mind or what would you like to experience?”
I still didn’t respond. Then he sent me a friend request. And another message with his LinkedIn profile web address. WE ARE ON A FETISH SITE. Ugh.
I needed him to stop.
So I sent the following back to him: “I’m sorry to hear about your situation and I’m sure it is very frustrating. I wish I was in a position to help you but unfortunately I am not. I do wish you all the best, however. Both work wise, and here.”
And I rejected his friend request.
Next message from him, an hour or so later: “Your not going to add me as a friend here?”
Then ANOTHER message, an hour after that:
“Do you any colleagues who may be helpful.
I appreciate your thoughts but you can understand this is a site about sex and relationships and I am sort humbled by asking a stranger for help … Please understand how difficult that is.”
And again, an hour after that:
“I hope I have not upset or offended you ..
I guess I just need someone to talk to as an understanding friend.
And, he sent me another friend request. Now, I’m definitely not responding to him. But I’m torn as to whether to block him. Is this super creepy or just sad?
Postscript: I declined his friend request, but he didn’t stop. He sent me another two emails over the next two days. Finally I just had to block him. How could I not?