I guess I should just know that this shit happens. On the one hand I’m happy I don’t have to shower now, but on the other it would have been nice to get out.
Let me back up. As I posted this morning, I had a lunch appointment (I’m not calling it a date) and an after-work date today.
This morning at 8:22 I got the following text from my lunch appointment:
“Hey Ann. I’m sorry but I need to reschedule. My wife fell down some stairs last night and hurt her back. She thought this morning she would be ok but after her sleep she can barely move. Can we reschedule. I’ll figure out when later today. Again I’m sorry.”
I responded “No problem. Hope she feels better soon.”
And before you lecture me, he’s in an open marriage and he’s someone I want to talk to about D/s, not date. I have no interest dating a married man. We’ll see if he follows up with me.
At that point I decided to work from home all day. I would get ready for the evening date from here.
Then at 1:38pm I get the following text from my drink date:
“Hey Ann, I just got hit with a last minute project. I’m hoping to keep our meet tonight, but may be late.”
Here was the rest of our exchange:
- Me: How much later do you think?
- Him: Maybe 730 or 8? I will confirm.
- Me: Okay. If it’s better for you lets reschedule. I’m not keen on waiting around to have you cancel, and nor do I want you stressing to get something done – I know what it’s like. I am finalizing some things but might be free thurs or fri. What would you prefer?
- Him: Ya, you’re right. Let’s reschedule. Let me get back to you.
- Me: Okay
- Him: Tnx
- Me: No problem.
I was trying to not sound like a pill, but I wanted to be very clear that I wasn’t just going to sit around waiting for him. I also was trying to not say I’m sitting around with all my nights free (even though that’s true at the moment) but I wanted to see him.
This is the second time he has cancelled. To be fair, he did tell me this was a very busy time for him as it’s year end. So I’m not all fussed worried that he’s bailing for a better woman (well, we are know there are no better women lol).
Needless to say – actually, who am I kidding… it’s not “needless to say”. I’m going to let him come to me and will not follow up again. If his interest is piqued enough, he will get in touch.
In other news, I’m starting to get the distinct impression the Italian dude is pretty much only interested in sex. I’m trying to deflect some of his asks with humor. Or telling him I would send him stuff after we meet. I told him yesterday I didn’t want a cock shot.
But he’s taking conversations to that place. He’s stopped asking me other stuff. We discussed getting together on Thursday or Friday night and he has to ask his ex, as he has full custody of his son. As of now, he says he hasn’t heard back. I’m starting to doubt he’s serious about getting together.
Last night he asked for “a sexy pic tonight before I hit the pillow”. I asked if he would reciprocate and he asked if there were any “restrictions”. I told him he could show me whatever he wanted…so of course it was a cock shot. He said it was from that morning but I dunno. I’ve become such a cynic.
This morning he sent me a text that said “working lunch today?” and when I asked if it was an invitation, he said yes, then when I told him I was actually free he said he couldn’t because he had to do a site visit with a colleague (he’s a project manager in a construction related field). I think I will just share the rest of the conversation with you and you can tell me what you think:
- Him: Then lets try again later in the week?
- Me: I thought you were looking into thurs or fri night? Did I misunderstand?
- Him: I’ve asked…no answer yet.
- Me: Okay. I am done early on Thurs and have Fri off. But no lunchtimes until Fri.
- Him: Ok let me figure it out on my end sexy.
- Me: Please. I am trying to make plans for my week 🙂
- Him: Listen to you Ms popular! 😉 Just keep that pussy nicely waxed and untouched for me Bella.
- Me: I don’t wax :/ Leaves scars.
- Him: Nicely shaven smooth as butter is fine too 🙂
Okay now I’m peeved. I almost tell him to f*ck off but hold back.
- Me: Appreciate the input but nope, I keep some hair.
- Him: Where?
- Me: What do you mean where?
- Him: Landing strip?
- Me: Is this a thing for you?
- Him: A deal breaker? No lol
- Me: Well I would hope not. You said you weren’t shallow. How about you ask me something non sexual 😛
I’m trying to deflect with humor. See if he gets my message and is willing to back the f*ck up.
- Him: I’m not done asking about sexual…So how much down there then? Lol
And at this moment, I fucking hated dating and all the BS that goes with it. I didn’t want to come across as a total bitch from hell but COME ON.
- Me: I don’t look like a 1970s porn star if that’s what you are worried about. I am blonde. My hair is fine and trimmed. And you really need to stop with the hair questions. You are now giving me the impression you are primarily interested in sex – so if that’s not the case, I thought you should not that’s not how you are coming across.
- Him: I’m ok with that. You’re free to assume as you wish.
- Me: I don’t think you want me to assume.
- Him: You can if you wish. But you know what they say about people who do…
- Me: Right. So I figured it was better to tell you how you are coming across then leave me with an assumption.
- Him: Mmmm Hmmm.
At this point, I really just want to get meeting him out of the way so I can see what he’s like. I’m pissed at myself for bothering with him but he’s said on other occasions that he’s just flirty and playful and passionate. But my previous experience would say when a man talks like this most of the time, that’s what he’s interested in.
Is there such a thing as an exception?
Anyway, we closed off like this and as of writing this, 8 hours later, I haven’t heard anything else. I am NOT going to text him again. As always, I welcome your input.
- Me: When are you done your site visit today and do you have to go straight back to the office?
- Him: I’ll be with an associate Bella. then straight back to the office.
- Me: Ah too bad.
- Him: Would have loved to sneak in a kiss and juicy ass grab [I refer to my ass as “juicy”, just so ya know]
- Me: Indeed yes.
Do not despair for me. All is not lost.
I texted Jason this morning to say hi and see how he enjoyed a vacation he just returned from. He was with his ex and their son. I should tell you that although it’s been a year since his ex showed up on his doorstep (literally) with his child, and he’s been considering getting back together with her and they are spending lots of time with her, he still hasn’t had sex with her.
This trip was going to be one of his big deciding factors on whether they get back together.
We chatted a bit and he asked if I got laid recently. I said no, and I was dying. He asked if I needed “a friend to do you a favor?”. I guess he didn’t fuck his ex…because once he does, he’s not going to be playing with others.
He’s coming over on Friday afternoon to fuck me silly. Yay! I’m super excited. He also asked if we could find a time to go to a sex club together. I said hell yeah. Thanks to FetLife, I now I know people who can join us 😉