The addiction of a new relationship (FL 3)

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  1. What is it about women like us who were living in passionless, often sexless marriages and suddenly have their sexuality tapped? We spring into overdrive and unleash a sensual side that surprises us and yet begins to shape our new identity. As I read your blog and others, I see similarities amongst us although we all express it in our unique style.

    I, for one, am grateful to discover and embrace this heretofore hidden aspect of myself. Congrats to you, Ann, for bravely taking this journey as well and most importantly for me, sharing it so openly.

    • Thank you, Maggie. I don’t think it’s common, but there are certainly several of us hanging around 🙂

      I’m not sure if you were the same, but I was very promiscuous before I was married. So in this way, I’m getting back to the sexual creature I used to be. Except I have little of the shame associated with it, which is wonderful.

      I chose to write about this aspect of my life partly because of another blogger, who was writing about an affair and how much she couldn’t understand her irrational behaviour and deep connection. Now, my “affair” was different but the intensity of emotion was similar.

      There is nothing like it, when you have been barren for so long. I think the mistake women make is to think it lasts, to think the grass is greener, and to mistake the core reason it feels so damn good. Thank goodness, I was able to keep my head above water in that regard, the entire time.

      But I fell really really hard nonetheless.

      • Very interesting. In my youth I was pretty promiscuous myself, however, i married young. I met my ex when i was 19 and married at 23. Naturally I am such a different person on all levels today that my approach and expectations are different from my youth. You’ve given me more to think about….thanks for digging deep on this one.

  2. What’s interesting is that most of this applies to guys too. After decades of neglect, someone paying attention, and I mean REALLY paying attention, not just “hi (insert your name here) I’d like to meet up some time” feels wonderful. We need our mental loving as well as the physical.

    Nothin’ wrong with that.

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