You know, I really need LESS drama in my life, not MORE drama.
Obviously, not everyone has gotten this memo.
Read my post called “What obligation do I have to my ex-dog” for the background context.
Two emails from Will (my ex) this week (the only thing I did was remove the names, otherwise this is verbatim)…
The first, to my Mom and me:
Guys – need to find the dog a home. Comes with the dog walker. We’re desperate. I don’t want to lose him from our son’s world but can’t get him down here in short term and need some help.
Can you do anything to help?
And in advance. Sorry for asking. I wouldn’t unless I didn’t have another plan. I really need help on this and am completely out of ideas and don’t know what to do.
What I wanted to say:
“Really? Fifteen years of you complaining about my parents, that they are annoying, too involved with our son, etcetera…and now that you are at the end of your rope, you reach out to me and MY MOTHER?! Do you see the life lesson here?”
What I actually said:
“Will, can you please clarify – are you looking for a permanent solution? Or something temporary until you can get him down there? If the latter…do you have a sense of for how long?”
And here’s the dramatic finish…his response:
The latter for sure and potentially the former – though permanent isn’t the right word as the goal is he’s with family and probably me, but that won’t happen before Christmas and need to figure out the details so don’t have a timeline worked out. I have a goal but not a clear plan yet so don’t want to oversee.
Unfortunately, as of now it’s come to either we find him a home or we put him down as I’ve got him with the dog walker for now but that’s not a long term plan. I don’t have a solution and don’t want our son upset and this is breaking my heart. I just can’t come up with an alternative.
The dog walker has said he would continue wherever and of course take him weekends people away and [our nanny] has offered to help too so it’s really a matter of having a roof over his head overnight and part of the family as he is part and I don’t want to just give him away and never see him again. I’ve even asked friends if they would dog sit. So far no luck.
If you can take him I think that’s best but obviously I can’t force you. It’s a shitty situation and I have nothing but a black hole of ideas at this point and a broken heart as to what’s next. I’m totally gutted. And need any help we can figure out.
So… I’m not a heartless bitch. Perhaps it’s helpful to note that my son hasn’t even mentioned missing the dog. What do y’all think?