I'm going to show you my tits

First of all, I want to say that I continue to be completely humbled and flummoxed by the positive response my blog is getting.  While I started writing in September, I stopped for a few months and so only really got at it in March and now have more readers and views than I would ever have imagined.  It’s astounding to me that others are appreciating what I write.  So thank you.

I hadn’t read any other blogs before I started writing, and as I’ve become a member of this awesome community, a few things in particular have interested and perplexed me.

The first thing:  female bloggers who write sexy blogs and show their body parts.  The most awesome I’ve found is Hyacinth Jones, whose blog I love (and thank you, Smithson, for introducing it to me).  I was initially surprised she posted so many pictures of herself – and was about to not follow since it wasn’t my thing – but then I saw her post on why she does (the link above).  It changed my mind…I like that she is so open about it – so self-aware.  She admits to being an exhibitionist who craves the feedback. Even as a straight woman, I love her boob day posts.  They are filled with women of all shapes and sizes and it is a real expression of beauty. It’s great.

So I’m not inherently against the proverbial blogger tit pic.  In fact, I can appreciate a lovely set of boobs.  It depends on why you are blogging, I suppose.  As a curious person I like to understand why people are writing, what makes them tick, why they do the things they do. I’m irritated in real life by people who aren’t self-aware, and that extends to the blogosphere as well.  I like it when people are deliberate and upfront about their actions – if you want to show your tits because you crave the attention and want positive feedback?  Go for it.  I just like to know that is what you are doing, so when your tits are the first thing I see in my WordPress reader, I can comment accordingly.

Female bloggers who show their parts without any dialogue as to why kind of bug me.  Apologies, as I’m sure some of you are my readers, and I don’t want to personally offend.  It’s because I don’t know why you are doing it.  In the absence of a statement, it can come across as needy and attention-seeking.  Because we all know how visual men are. 

I don’t put up pictures because it’s not germane to my writing. I’m writing for my own healing and self-discovery. I want people to like my writing for what it is, not for the photos that accompany it. I want followers because they like my story, not my body.

Would adding my personal pictures – and getting positive feedback – be an ego boost?  Sure!  I would be lying if I said it wouldn’t feel good. Most days, I’m pretty confident in who I am and what I look like, so I don’t need to show my body for additional reinforcement or encouragement.

But here’s the thing.  I don’t know why people are reading my stuff.  Some might think I’m a good writer – I’ve received a few humbling compliments to that effect.  Perhaps including tit shots would actually turn you off and make you think I’m not serious.  On the other hand, while I don’t consider myself a sex blogger, perhaps some of you find my stuff is sexy and titillating.  Perhaps you imagine I’m hot and it keeps you coming back.  I think it’s better to be in your imagination only.  You like skinny girls and you think of me this way?  I put up a picture and you find out I’m not?  Game over.  The titillation is gone.

Some bloggers contend that they get the same amount of traffic regardless of whether a bod shot is included in their posts. I surmise this is true because readers go to look regardless – to see if a pic is included. My “Things I fu*ked myself with” post got a lot of hits – the most recently – and I’m sure it’s because it’s one of the most overtly sexual things I’ve written.

So really…does it even matter? For a while now, and especially on those days when I am greeted with someone’s cleavage in my WordPress reader, I wonder what would happen if I did include a pic in my post. Would traffic increase for that day then drop again? Would that post get re-tweeted over and over? Would it continue to have solid readership even after the days it’s published?

I have a real problem. Once I have an intellectual puzzle to solve, I don’t stop until it’s sorted. It makes me really good at my job, but a bit annoying when I’m trying to figure out what makes things tick. In this case, there is nothing but conjecture to satisfy me. And it’s not good enough.

I decided to take the plunge.  As an experiment of sorts.  See what happens.  I will let you all know.  If you don’t want to see, don’t scroll down.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Yes, they are boobs

** Disclaimer.  These may, or may not be, my tits.  I really struggled with this post and whether to do it and so obviously debated if I should really include my own.  Didn’t know if it was relevant to the point I was trying to make.  I will decide afterwards whether to tell.  For now, if you love them, believe they are mine, and if they aren’t your type, they aren’t.  How about that?

91 thoughts on “I'm going to show you my tits

  1. You are just awesome….. every day you surprise me with your posts! I follow because I like your courage, honesty and humor…the sex is the added benefit. The tits, pretty awesome too! 🙂

    I am still laughing out loud as I read this at work…god knows someone walks in just as your tits flash across my screen and I’m trying to think how the hell I explain that one!

    • Thank you! This one was on hold for a while…I had a real internal debate. Thanks for sharing why you read. It was meant to be rhetorical but I confess it’s nice that people are telling me why 🙂

  2. I read a lot of your journeys and they always make me smile. Your openness and honesty is what makes it so great. This is your space where your experience and your opinion is posted. For those who hate they can always walk away. Some even can learn from it. Keep up what you are doing.

    I guess there is something similar going on in the blogging community as in real life. when a lady/woman shows herself. (most the time with well thought out plan) they quickly become a pray and or called whatever come to the readers mind.

    There is nothing wrong with sharing thoughts and wisdom and beautiful bodies.
    Here a well known woman has made hundreds of selfies and made a book with them. A year of change and self discovery she called it in an interview.
    the book is called ‘Selfmade’ by Heleen van Royen.

    Keep doing what you do best. Keep smiling.

    Whether they are or are not yours, I would not mind having those in my hands every day 😀 ha ha

    • I will definitely look at that book – thanks for the recommendation! It’s nice to know why you read and I’m particularly honored that you think people can learn from what I write. I agree there is nothing wrong with display…but I like to understand motivation. It’s how I roll 😉

  3. I am not going to lie – those are fantastic boobs. Shapely, alluring, and absolutely visually delighting. That said, whether those boobs are yours or aren’t has nothing to do with how exceedingly hot you are. I come here and eagerly devour your words because the mind behind them is irresistible. Each sentence you write looks at me with a come hither glance that makes it impossible not to dive in. Now, I love boobs. I do. And if you were to start posting pics of your body to taunt and tease wicked minds like mine, well, I would drink them in with absolute delight.

    Unless those pics robbed me of your words. If they became satisfaction enough to the part of you that relishes feedback that you no longer felt compelled to write? I would resent them. Because given the choice between the two, the visual appeal of a naked body or the glimpse inside the mind of one so passionate? I will choose the latter, every time.

  4. I can’t answer for anyone but myself, so here goes…

    One, I do a majority of my blog reading at work, so I’d probably have to skip a bunch of your posts if they contained tit pics…or, you know, any OTHER pics of your anatomy considered to be private by societal standards. I had to scroll by the picture above pretty fast so that no one happened to see it while they walked by. They ARE nice, though, from the quick glance I was able to sneak.

    Two, I quite enjoyed our comment exchange over at The Hook’s place, and was intrigued to see your blog. That is why I followed you.

    Three, I’ll admit I’m not entirely comfortable with everything you discuss here. I guess I’m a bit more traditional when it comes to dating and relationships. I don’t think I could ever participate in an open marriage or relationship. I don’t think I could even bring myself to date more than one woman at a time. Still, your stories and point of view are interesting. And I do like your writer’s voice.

    The bottom line, though, is that this is YOUR blog. YOUR space. You should do with it what you want. Whatever you decided to do there is almost assuredly a market for and people will find it.

    • Well I’m sorry (honest!) if the pic showed up first…I put it at the bottom of my post but not sure what the WP reader does some days.

      I’m glad to hear that you stick around even though it’s uncomfortable. I try to just be honest about what I’m thinking and feeling. I confess to being caught off guard – then delighted – by your comment that you like my “writer’s voice”…since I never considered myself a writer. Perhaps now at 130+ posts I should re-think that. So thank you.

      I hope you stick around!

  5. And here I was yesterday accusing you of being Mother Theresa! I don’t know who actually belong to those pair, but on their own they are quite spectacular. But much more important is the woman “behind” them. It’s the woman who makes the tits, not the tits who make the woman.

    • I couldn’t agree with you more, Moe. While I can certainly appreciate them, body parts out of context hold less appeal for me. I am super turned on by the person – and their parts may be less traditionally appealing to me but that doesn’t matter if I’m attracted to their brain.

      Perhaps that’s part of my problem with people who show their bits without context – you don’t get to know the person, and therefore some of the appeal is lost. I’m not sure men are the same way, given how visual you lot are…

  6. You know, boobs are fantastic.

    I’m a big believer in boobs, hell I spent most of yesterday walking around the office with my head looking at my own cleavage bouncing in my low cut shirt. I’m totally a boob girl through and through.

    As much as I harp on about body positivity and owning your own, I don’t think I’d have the balls to actually post a picture of mine.

    So kudos to you for doing it.

    I talk about sex way too much on my blog to judge what anyone else wants to put on theirs.

    All it comes down to is making this your space and if that’s where you want to go with your entries, then all means, go for it =)

    Ps. Great tits. I’m envious of just a handful, instead of 3!!

  7. I didn’t think you were actually going to post a photo, incredible. The Boyfran and I were actually just talking about going to Spain earlier while we were on a walk and he mentioned their topless beaches. I don’t think I’ve ever ever considered going to one but for some reason it just didn’t seem to phase me. It sounds kind of fun, actually. For the most part, I’m fairly modest but I’ve been through periods of my life where I was ashamed of my body for various reasons and just thinking about it makes me want to get naked because no one gets to make me feel bad about my body, nope.

    ^tangent.

    • Aussa – thanks for the read and response… I think it would be awesome to do something like that, especially when it’s so open and accepted. I find those experiences liberating because I realize it’s not all women who are a size 2 and perfect. It’s a real cross section of beauty of all kinds (which is why I like Hy’s boob day posts). So I say to you… get naked!!

  8. Hi,
    So now that this post has been up for a while – how is the experiment going? Are you getting more blog hits? It’s an interesting experiment. Please share the results.
    Thanks,

  9. Ha. Thanks for outing me as a massive perv. Oh no wait, I do a pretty good job of that myself! I’m interested to read the results of this little experiment…

    Nice rack by the way 😉

  10. I feel like I should comment here but I’m not sure what to say without revealing whether that’s a photo of you or not.

    I will say that you have a wonderful body that would undoubtedly get you a lot of attention if you wanted to post revealing photos. It’s safe to say it would significantly bump the number of readers, though the “reading” might be hampered by lack of blood flow to certain regions of the brain.

    However, mere photos obviously can’t hold a candle to being in your presence… nude or otherwise. You have so many wonderful qualities, physical and mental, and you know that I will gladly support you in whatever decisions you make on your blog.

    I’m just happy to be along for the ride… as a reader or otherwise. 😉

  11. When your title and picture first showed up in my reader, my first gut reaction was, “What the hell? Why???” I honestly felt like you were selling out to get a numbers bump. Which is a weird reaction because one of my dearest friends (Hy) has a tit pic in almost every post and I don’t bat an eye. So why was my reaction so different with you? Perhaps because that hasn’t been a part of your standard operating procedures? I’m not sure.

    But I did read your post. And then felt better when I realized this was about your thoughts and feelings on posting nude pictures as a blogger rather than a new direction you’re taking. It was interesting to me how much my thoughts on the matter align with yours.

    That said, I have chosen to not post pics of my boobs (or other parts) on my blog. But I’ve for sure been known to email them to an appreciative friend or three. Because for me, if I’m going to be objectified, I want to know the man or woman behind the objectifying.

    Cheers!
    Marian

    • I’ve chosen to not put up dirty pics of myself for the same reason, but there’s this one close-up of my mouth and tongue I’ve always wanted to show off. It’s beautiful, but the artistry would definitely be lost online, and in person it’s kind of hard to find a segue into, “Hey, wanna see a pretty photo of me licking my friend’s cock…”

    • Well then my gut was right to tell me that some people would be disappointed if I suddenly decided to become an exhibitionist. Interesting to hear our thoughts align! I as well have sent many a pic to others…just not to the internet.

  12. This was a great post not only for the beautiful tits, but also because it was a great surprise and the surprise element made me laugh out loud as did the title after the fact. Bravo. xoxo

  13. Hi Ann, I am a new blogger to WP and I admire your words. I must admit that as a man I have never outgrown looking at tits. I will believe that the boobs in the pic are yours. If not yours they are still beautiful. Thanks for the post.
    Nelson

  14. I agree a lot with Twindaddy, especially about this being YOUR space. You should do as you damn well please. I think your posts are brave and while I’m very private in areas yiu are open about, I know people say the same to me about things I share. We are all different and we should embrace it instead of fear it.

    And that is a nice rack, yours or otherwise. 😉

    • Thanks for your comment, Deanna. I’m touched you think my posts are brave…so thank you. I would say your writing is absolutely brave and open as well! It depends what our journey is and why we write, I suppose.

      (and thanks for the rack compliment)

  15. This was a good morning surprise, it´s 7 a.m in Spain and this just relieved my pain. Good you stopped by my crazy little blog. I see that you too have read Sean Smithson, funny guy. I´ve probably already read all his post. I´m all for showing tits, just find them wonderful. More power to tits. Catch up with more posts of you latter.

  16. “I don’t know why people are reading my stuff.”

    Because I thoroughly enjoy reading your work. And, frankly, your writing and stories often turn me on.

    The tits help, too. 😉

    • Ah, why thank you very much 🙂

      Glad to hear my writing has some nice side effects…I do confess yours does the same to me. It’s all good as long as one can find an outlet, I suppose?

  17. Everyone has their own reasons for posting pics. Even my wife didn’t expect to post herself but found it another way to express herself. The same goes for writing a blog. It gives the freedom to express your own thoughts. And being able to get feedback from the community is a added bonus.
    With that said thanks for sharing. It did brighten my day 😉

  18. My most popular blog happens to mention the name of a porn star in passing…the blog has nothing to do with porn, or with her. But it gets the most hits by far of anything I’ve written, particularly among international readers. So I’ve learned everyone overseas is a pervert, and that the best readers are titillated readers. LOL Seriously, though, I just found your blog today, and this was probably the 12th post I found my way to. If those are your boobs, applause. If they’re not, I propose that mammalian protruberences, like memory, is part of a collective consciousness…so whoever those boobs belong to, in the end, they’re really everybody’s boobs. In which case, thank you for reflecting the best of humanity!

  19. Well whosever tits they are they are lovely! I’m a big nipple fan ever since I had mine removed (long story but of course I blogged about it). I’m new to your blog – looking forward to checking it out

  20. Ann,

    I know that you and my husband chat (thank you for the encouragement you offered him, privately) and we have exchanged a couple comments. I didn’t see these posts related to the need to share our bodies on the internet until the latest comment (above) showed up in the inbox that my husband and I share for our online anonymous activities.

    I am firmly in the camp that questions the need to share one’s body for all the world to see. My husband is in the same camp and won’t share any sexy images on his blog that depict the intimate acts that he passionately writes about. What compels women to do this? The topic is widely debated and many times descends into anger-fueled personal jabs and insults being flung. I have been in that camp because of my own beliefs and personal circumstances. When I see a woman with a beautiful body being shared on the internet, my self confidence shrinks. To see a perfect waistline, hips and breasts conjures conflicting emotions. I recognize the (culturally accepted standard of) beauty and see that I don’t measure up. My body is less than standard. I am not young. I have carried and nursed three children. I struggled with post-childbirth weight for several years after our last was born.

    The tight and slim 22 year old body is long gone. Today, I am in better shape than I was then. I run, swim, bike, and weight train. I am only a few pounds heavier than I was at 22 (those last 5 pounds are stubborn as hell). I don’t measure up (and I didn’t then). My husband has been amazing for all of these years. He loves my body and never fails to build me up yet I too easily dismiss his obvious biases. I want people to find me sexy, yet I don’t want people judging me by my physical appearance. Strange?

    When I am talking to a man and he stares at my chest, it feels good and it angers me. My husband says that he loves seeing men check me out. My breasts, my bum etc. He sees men staring at me. I know that it turns him on and it should boost my self-image. Somehow, the criticisms from my adolescence (mean girls) steamroll those thoughts into oblivion.

    I found Boobday a few months ago. I looked at all the different shapes and sizes of the participating women and found kindred spirits, there. I thought about it for a month weighing several risks and fears, countered by the positive posts that they were receiving. I wanted to try it. The T-shirt edition was a great start for me (http://adissolutelifemeans.com/2014/09/friday-september-26th-t-shirt-boobday/) and it helped me, immensely.

    I should also confess that I share more intimate pictures of my husband and me in another venue that affords me a lot more control and a smaller audience which provides limited exposure and limited risk. The Boobday pic was a major step.

    I know that this commentary is really just me rambling on and will probably be seen as me simply justifying my action. But, kudos to you, Ann. If that pair of boobs belongs to you, well…let me just say that they are spectacular. 😉

  21. I have read many blogs on line about women’s sexual awakenings after a divorce. I enjoy reading this type of blogs because they are sometimes filled with a sense of discovery and raw emotion which makes the writing powerful. However, I have seen the decline of those blogs to a level in which the writer just seeks affirmation and ego boosts by posting pictures of their sexual escapades and asking for comments. Don’t take me wrong, I am a guy and a like to see those pics. However, I also appreciate powerful writing on its own right. That is one of the reasons I enjoy reading your blog. Getting back to the picture you posted….. Very nice!

  22. So very relieved to have read this post late enough to not have had to wait for identification of that magnificent torso.

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