Desperate times call for bad decisions (FL 2)

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  1. Ann, I’ve had similar “events” that I’ve never spoken of. It would be nice to have the opportunity to speak with you about them.

    • Recognizing the feeling as loneliness was a bit of a shock. I’m definitely at peace with the decision, but there are still emotions and impacts to work through. Especially facing the deception I was engaged in – even with permission it didn’t feel right. But it was necessary for me at the time.

  2. We have all done things that we regret, and look back on thinking “I can’t believe that was me that did that”
    It’s what you learn from it, and if it’s something out of character how you grow from it. Also it’s important to analyse why you did it. But mistakes are a part of life and it doesn’t make someone a bad person.

    • Thanks for reading and for your comment!! The reality is I would likely do the same thing again, even with the knowledge I have today. It was such an eye opening experience for me and put me on the right path…even if the way to that path was a little unconventional.

    • Thanks Hook, that’s very sweet of you. I do feel relieved, actually… writing helps way more than I ever thought it would. As does the great support I get from you 🙂

  3. If you had opened up your marriage then you did nothing wrong. If you hadn’t opened up your marriage at that point, then I am sure you have berated yourself and suffered enough.

    You are allowed to have sex and feel good about yourself. Feeling wanted and sexy is so important in life. I don’t even consider what you did to be having an affair because you weren’t cheating.

    I think you know that we all make the rules for our lives and relationships. You were doing what was right for you.

  4. During 18 months of a very unhappy marriage I was faithful to my wife until the last 4 weeks prior to us separating. At that point I visited a sex worker in a flat in central London. I felt no guilt as regards being unfaithful to my wife, however I love my daughter and would hate for her to find out what I did. Also, as a consequence of my trist I was late for a drink with an old friend (I felt guilty about lying to my friend about the reasons for my lateness but no guilt about being disloyal to my wife). I still feel no guilt about the encounter but, as I said above I wouldn’t want my daughter to find out about it. Thanks for your honest post.

    • Thanks for reading and commenting! It’s a different thing entirely when you contemplate others knowing about the things you have done. Glad to hear you aren’t harboring any serious guilt over the experience – and interesting to read about your experiences on your blog!

  5. I hope this wasn’t asnwered earlier, but if you had the hall pass – why the guilt?

    I guess because it was at a time where you’re coming back to the same room as your husband and child? The child being the driving factor.

What do you think?