Phone Sex Abandonment

So the first couple days I’m on the naughty dating site I get overwhelmed with messages (more about those later, some are truly hilarious).  One guy whose handle references his cock shares his secret photos with me and he’s cute and well endowed.  We have a 3 hour chat online (I’m sick with food poisoning so not able to do a whole lot except lie in bed…turns out I have enough energy for online dating sites) and I figure that this is a good thing.  We talk about what we want (not just a one time thing, as long as there is chemistry, etc etc) and that it would be great to meet for drinks…we even talk about possible dates.

He emails me more naked cock photos.  Decent ones, not flaccid or in a messy bathroom or anything like that.  I send him a tasteful but partly naked photo.  Then he asks whether we can talk on the phone.  I think YES! this is the next step! So i call him (remembering to use the code that makes your number private) and we have hot phone sex…he has a great voice and I use my vibrator and it’s awesome.  I think this means YES! we will take it to the proverbial next level and set up a time to met. I fall asleep kinda happy and excited about this new journey.  Nice chats online!  Phone sex in advance! Cool guys who want what I want!

We have the following email exchange:

Me: Thanks for last night…it was awesome…hope u slept great.

Him: Yes, I had a great sleep after that, thanks 🙂
Was really fun chatting.
I’m at work now and it will be another long day tomorrow, so I likely can’t meet this week.
Weekends are probably best.
Hope you had a great day yesterday and a good week.
Chat soon 🙂

So this all feels good.  And then…he EVAPORATES.  Poof.  He’s still on the site of course, just doesn’t contact me.  Doesn’t respond to my emails – I even send a cool one (I think…but I’m pissed at being ignored) that says “hey if you have changed your mind about meeting in person just let me know.  Don’t want to waste your time and certainly don’t want mine wasted”.  I feel in the moment that this is not desperate but a kinda girl power “you can’t get away with being a dick”.  But in my heart I know that I just want him to give me a reason he has evaporated.  I never get one.

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  2. I hate evaporation. Have hated it from the first real BF I ever had, who evaporated after 6 months. I was 16. And heartbroken. Yet I now know it was probably for the best 🙂

      • Yes, it was quite harsh. He was very wise, I was a messed up girl, he recognised it and bailed. The thing is, it would have been nice if he’d been decent enough to say something along the lines of “This is not working, I’m sorry”. But who is mature enough to say this when they’re 16/20? At least neither of us was :-/
        It just made things harder on me for the rest of my dating life 🙂

  3. I can totally relate to ‘evaporation’ I’ve experienced it a lot on the dating sites I’ve been. Its so annoying. And no matter how ‘cool’ an email I send, it still comes off needy in my mind. Now I just deal with it, although it does bother me. A lot.

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